Your piece has provoked some internal discussions about my own sexuality. I have kind of the reverse (perhaps we could have some fun), because although I have always thought of myself as a top, I am not a particularly dominant sexual partner, and I don’t fancy a bottom who just lies there and is submissive. I want a partner who fucks back, someone who feels as excited for the experience as I am, but I am also often asked to be more dominant that I really choose to be.

Does that mean I’m a powerless top?

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Gay father; Psychiatrist; Award-winning author FINALLY OUT. Chapter excerpt here: Top writer on Medium. Not medical advice.

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