When we give up too much in the service of a relationship, we eventually come to resent the other person who has not accepted us as we are. We ask, “Why is what I am not enough for them?”

But sometimes, we assume they want more from us than they actually do. It isn’t their expectations so much as it is our presumption of what they expect of us. We project onto them our feelings of inadequacy.

But we get confused. Are these their expectations of me or mine?