Of course I was being dishonest. Isn't lying at the heart of almost every affair?
I'm not proud that I did but I'm not going to be dishonest and say I did not lie!
People don't think, "My marriage is in trouble, I think we should have a baby/build a house. The sense that something is wrong and seek to find ways to fix the problem.
We set out our plans to build the house long before Roberto came into the picture. I only know now, in retrospect, that the house was being designed and built for reasons that went far beyond, "I'd like to build a house."
I understand why you might have felt betrayed. I understand, now, why my wife felt that, too.
Almost everyone who is asked says that lying is wrong, but they also say that if they were having an affair, they'd lie about it.
My wife has forgiven me and it set her free. I needed to forgive her for somethings, too, but that's her story to tell.
Perhaps you'd feel better if you found a way to forgive the one who betrayed you.