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Questions Men Frequently Ask About Sex
Men worry most about penis size and cumming too quickly.
When you write about sex, as I do, two questions men frequently want to be answered appear in your inbox: 1. How big is the average dick? 2. What is the average length of time it takes to cum?
We can divide the question about cumming into two issues: In general, young men want to slow it down, and older men want to speed it up.
Take as an example, this note I received [edited for clarity]:
I am in my early forties, and I’ve never had sex except to masturbate. Is it normal to cum too fast? I cum in about five minutes. What is the average size of a dick if you don’t mind my asking? I am just admitting I am gay, and I get nervous around guys because I get aroused quickly.
Men are fascinated by their penises. Nothing brings them so much joy; few things produce more anxiety.
Penis size
I was a Flight Surgeon in the U. S. Navy, and for much of that time, I performed flight physicals on mostly healthy young men. I’ve seen a lot of penises, and I can tell you this: There are fewer differences in bodies than there are in the way men perceive them.
