Many lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender people come out years after they have been married to an opposite-sex heterosexual wife or husband.
These Mixed-Orientation Relationships (MOR) upend the lives of both members of the couple. Some have renegotiated the relationship to remain married. Others remain bound together in resentment. Some betray their vows with chronic infidelity.
These couples have three choices:
- Fix it
- Get out
- Put up with it
Many of these people ache for just one person in their life with whom they can be genuine and authentic. But shame and guilt present a barrier to disclosing their conflicts with anyone.