I’m gay and didn’t know “pegging” either.

I guess that’s because in the LGBTQ community is just talked about as “bottoming.”

We seem to need two different terms for it, so heterosexual men and women won’t have to feel that to enjoy anal sex makes them too gay.

The sexual pleasure for a man, gay, straight, or bisexual comes from the pressure a penis or a dildo when it presses on the prostate gland. For many, this greatly intensifies orgasms.

I believe that the power/submission dynamics in gay or straight anal play are similar.

One stereotype I’d like to explode: It’s commonly said, but a total myth, that any man who has had a penis in his mouth or rectum is gay. These are sexual behaviors as opposed to sexual identity.

Ethical sexual behaviors include anything the adult participants mutually agree upon.

Sexual identity is a statement, “This is who I am; this is who I always expect to be.”

Sexual behaviors and sexual identity are not the same things. They can be (and often are) inconsistent not only between individuals but also within the same individual.

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