Ejaculation in older men.

It is very important for older men to understand that rush to orgasm is often problematic for them. It is just a function of men's evolving sexual function.

Erections come more slowly and are lost more easily during love making. This is natural.

It only becomes a problem for older men when they begin to compare themselves to what they were like when they were much younger. When they ask themselves, "Will I get it up?" or "Will I be able to cum this time?" it almost certainly interfers with their success.

I often tell older men to focus on slow sex as your comment in this article suggests. Make it about touch, massage, playfulness, FUN, and not a contest to reach some magical moment.

Of course ejaculations are pleasurable, but if you focus is entirely on that moment, you will miss a lot of the joy and pleasure of lovemaking.

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Gay father; Psychiatrist; Award-winning author FINALLY OUT. Chapter excerpt here: http://bit.ly/2EyhXTY Top writer on Medium. Not medical advice.

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