Is an affair a deal-breaker if you can’t find what you want at home? — Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead. — Adele I drove my best friend, Bruce, home after my husband, Doug, and I had eaten dinner with him. When he opened the door to get out of my Camry, I shivered as premature winter-cold rushed in. …

I love my husband, and I love my wife, but I also love puppies and ice cream. While no one expects me to love puppies and my husband in the same way, some reject the idea that I can love both my husband and my wife. Erotic love tingles our bodies; it merges sexual urges and lust. Although we often hope — or mistakenly believe — it will last forever, its intensity cannot sustain a relationship. Love is not stagnant; it is a dynamic process that changes over time.

We will all experience old age if we’re blessed to live that long, but it can be the best time in your life. I’m now a part of an age group that our society would prefer to be invisible and may feel worthy of being discarded. The advertising industry bombards…

Only when pus is drained from a wound, can healing begin.

I had fantasies about sex with another man, but when I did, reality didn’t match the fantasy. I was married with two kids when I decided to give it a try. I didn’t want to be gay. I wanted a one-off blowjob to satisfy my curiosity. In sexual fantasy, we’re in control of all variables: who the partner is and what sexual activity we’ll engage in. No need to compromise. If it’s not going the way you want, left swipe and move on.

Being gay in rural America was lonely. Most believed we were the only ones. Escaping was the only option.

It’s not only young people who question if they are gay. Men and women in mid-life or older experience conflict about sexual orientation.

Not every man who has sex with men is gay. An interviewer once said, “Any man who has had a penis is his mouth is gay.” I tried (unsuccessfully)to explain…

Sadly, there are no such "gay churches" in Des Moines now. When I first came out, I could visit any one of five gay bars, all with a certain theme and a crowd of regulars. They also had out-of-town visitors and closeted men just beginning to explore their "faith." Recently…