May 23, 2021

Secrets are like abscesses: they beg to be lanced but we fear the pain of rupturing them.

Diana Polekhina -

Only when pus is drained from a wound, can healing begin.

One of my patients came into my office and said, “Dr. Olson! I read your book. You told us a lot more…



Mar 26, 2021

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I wanted to flee my rural hometown to go somewhere, anywhere I could find people like me.

Being gay in rural America was lonely. Most believed we were the only ones. Escaping was the only option.

Many rural LGBTQ are drawn to the city to explore their same-sex attractions. The…



Mar 11, 2021

It took me a long time to accept I am gay, but I missed some early clues.


It’s not only young people who question if they are gay. Men and women in mid-life or older experience conflict about sexual orientation.

I preach about the difference between sexual behavior and sexual…



Mar 9, 2021

Not every man who has sex with men is gay.

An interviewer once said, “Any man who has had a penis is his mouth is gay.”

I tried (unsuccessfully)to explain that our sexual identity is for each of us to decide for ourselves.

In one study, 10% of men who…



Loren A Olson MD

Gay father; Psychiatrist; Award-winning author FINALLY OUT. Chapter excerpt here: Top writer on Medium. Not medical advice.